Note to self: Stop complaining because don't nobody wanna hear that sh*t...
I've come to notice that people have a low tolerance for complaining, bitterness and discontent from others. At first, you may experience genuine concern or support from friends, family and coworkers during a trialsome time, but as the problem persists, often I find that people begin to grow weary of the "whoa is me" mentality. Eventually, you earn the reputation for being weak, incapable and even labled a kill-joy.
Solution? Fake it till you feel it. During a hard day it's easy to reply to "How are you?" with the truth: "I'm terrible and here is the laundry list of what's wrong with me NOW..." However, sometimes it pays to ditch the complaining in favor of a more positive attitude. Most people rarely want to know about your well being and ask as a courtesy or formality. Replying "I'm well, and you?" does wonders for your overall mood, forcing your own attention away from the negative. With a focus on projecting good energy, you might even reflect some back until you actually DO feel "well".
I'm just sayin...
You seem to be hitting all of my past issues on the head! I've learned the lesson fake it until you make it big time. Not everyone has to know how you are feeling because not everyone wants to know how you are feeling...whether it be good or bad...smh.
ReplyDeleteSo true! I think being a little guarded is healthy. Not everyone deserves to be let into your head space.
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